The Looming Monster


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Hey gang!

Sometimes I wonder about me. The other me. The insecure part of ourselves that tends to bleed through. I always wonder what that part of me would be like if it was the me that is the most prevalent part.

We all have these masks that hide our crazy, right? In dating, I call it the “three month monster”. Three months, I have found, is the amount of time needed to have that ugly part of us rear its’ head and snarl.

“I never want to hear about your ex because I worry they are better looking than me,” it squeals.

“I feel the need to drag you down because I feel like I don’t deserve you the way you are,” it says slobbering in your ear.

“I cannot let people in,” it growls.

These things are hard to hear or understand when it’s external. We think my gawd! this crazy so and so is frightening. I need to jump out of this relationship with or without a parachute! Burn it! Burn it with fire!

However, sometimes, when we look at ourselves, we can see that creature. We face it, whether we like it or not. What does yours look like?

I know what mine looks like. It’s large and looming. Somewhere in the corner of the room. Its head hits the ceiling and it crouches its bulk to fit. It grumbles in my ear from afar. It tells me I’m insecure about my worth, it tells me I’m not good enough. It reminds me that I am completely un-whole.

I am sure you’re thinking to yourself, “This dude has issues.” You’re right. I do. Who doesn’t? I feel like to live a decent life, you have to have some issues. If you don’t, what have you come up against? What struggle has shaped you the way water shapes the earth it runs across?

However, when we realize our issue monster looms over us, inside of us, what do we do?

Do we confront it? Do we hide it? Do we embrace it?

This image of me in the corner is ever present but it is up to me, to us, to remember that it is merely a part of us. We are gatekeepers. The masks we have hide them. I suggest getting rid of the mask and confronting the beast. It’s the only way to truly move forward. I recognize the me-creature who whispers to me things about myself I hope aren’t true but I take it with a grain of salt and smile.

Why do I smile?

I smile because, without me, there is no monster.

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One thought on “The Looming Monster

  1. Mine is so quiet. I thought I was alone all these years but it was always right beside me. Before I was aware of it, I thought my lovers of my past were decieving me. They would say ” I love you”, but I thought otherwise. I started to rehearse the phrase ” no you don’t” just for practice because I knew there would come a time when I would need to shield and conceal my love for them due to their looming mistakes. Cause we’re all flawed right, so we’re bound to make them. Unfortunately, me realizing that I am just as full of bad decisions as my ex’s didn’t set in soon enough lol They became my ex and my looming monster won. It had me all to it’s self like it wanted…. Until I finally came face to face with it as you have… Just don’t let it win. Because we all have these feelings. Surely, your so and so will understand. Just allow that person to provide comfort and help you find your balance…. Awesome post!!!

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